Thursday, January 21, 2010

Busy Week

Isn't it funny how you can have a HUGELY busy week and yet really do nothing, all at the same time? Yeah. That is our life. Of course Jake actually HAS done something...quite a few somethings...two call nights and 6 hour night shift in the ER. Dear old Cole is not sleeping well...or should I say is not settling down well at the beginning of the night.

I have decided, based on some of the information I have read from Dr. Sears ("The Fussy Baby Book" - amazing), that "crying it out" is not the answer, at least not for us. Jake would really prefer that we continue letting him cry at night, just for the simplicity of it all, and I agree that it is "easier" to go that route. But after two full weeks of having Cole cry an average of 2 hours each night at bedtime tells me that this method is not "working" as it should for us. That is, his crying is not becoming gradually less and less.

Because Cole is totally a high need baby, quickly becoming a high need toddler, crying for him only escalates and he gets angrier and angrier when his cries are not answered. Being that he can not yet verbalize his needs/wants, I feel like leaving him alone to cry (no matter how many periodic "checks" we do) is not the answer, at least not at his current age.

I have spoken with mothers of other high need infants and they mentioned that they only had success "crying it out" at a year or beyond. For now I am resolving to rocking and nursing him to sleep initially and then if he wakes any time short of 3 to 4 hours, I will only rock him back to sleep. He can go a solid 6 to 8 hours without eating at night, so I do not want to nurse him unnecessarily.

Luckily he now is comforted/soothed when one of us picks him up and when I rock him. This is a brand new and very important milestone for Cole as before he could only be comforted by eating. The other "trick" we are using is to have his bedtime a little later than the "norm" - sometime between 9:30 PM and 10:30 PM.

Enough about our sleep problems, though. Tomorrow should be a fun day for all of us. Cole and I will spend late morning and lunch out at our support group meeting, which is always fun. Jake's current Peds rotation team plans to go out to eat tomorrow night at Squealer's, a barbecue place up North. It will be great to get out and actually get to do something with adults for once!

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